Pardon me - I have one anger feline waiting for me

Yes, I've been bad - the last time I blogged was back in July and here it is September 2, 2010. Sorry things in my life have been in turmoil - I've been the victim of ID theft and getting my life back in order has been nothing short of a nightmare.

Anyhow, since I'm getting back to normal or as normal as one can get after having their life invaded and stolen from them... Here is what I found absolutely interesting today...

I signed into my Twitter account for the first time in God knows when and it turns out I have nearly 300 followers. Strangely enough most are women, well, I guess it isn't so strange, after all - when you hit a certain age there are always more single women than single men - even with the high divorce rate.

Anyhow, if you'd like to follow my Tweets - be forewarned, I don't use Twitter often, my link is: http://twitter.com/swf42

So if you have been kind enough to follow me - you will now find that I am following you. Thank you for your loyalty and readership.

Of course I have other things happening in my life but for now this is all I will blog. I'm actually on my way out to the food store. I am out of cat food and I'm dealing with one very impatient feline at the moment!

Stay tuned... I'll be blogging more as Fall and Winter set in

Gentlemen Please Only Respond If...

Well, I have an email box full of my half joking request to have one of you join me for the Nutcracker in December at Lincoln Center. I appreciate that many of you ladies would like to accompany me, and, while I do agree with the argument that going to ballet is very much a "chick thing", I would much rather the company of a gentleman.

A gentleman is defined as "a man of noble or gentle birth b : a man belonging to the landed gentry c (1) : a man who combines gentle birth or rank with chivalrous qualities (2) : a man whose conduct conforms to a high standard of propriety or correct behavior d (1) : a man of independent means who does not engage in any occupation or profession for gain (2) : a man who does not engage in a menial occupation or in manual labor for gain"

So to the rude, blunt man who thinks me hanging off the back of his Harley is my idea of a good time, thanks but, no thanks. There was much more to his vulgar email which isn't fit for public reading, simply use your imagination for such a person.

To the rather cocky UES doctor who apparently thinks he is God's gift to women, to you I also thanks but, no thanks. While tales of romantic escapes might be enchanting to some, it is only a turn off to me. Anyone who has more than 50 partners in his past and has yet to reach 50 years of age is not for me. I wish you luck in finding your next victim, I mean date.

To the 23 year old. You are absolutely adorable. If I was 22 there is no way I would be able to wait until December. Alas, young man (and I do mean young man) I am not a cougar nor do I want to be one. And so I toss you back into the dating pond.

To the snide guy from the Midwest asking who I think I am or what do I have to offer, my reply is this:

1. I am well traveled and will continue to be well traveled. Why is this important? To quote Mark Twain "Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness." I have been to over 25 countries in the world (including 3 of the 7 continents). I can hold intelligent conversations about many countries and cities around the world.
   
2. I am not a fat couch potato. I walk at least 3 miles every day and go to the gym at least 4 times a week. My body is toned.
3. If you had followed my blog from the start or had bothered to read anything about me, you know I will not reveal my profession. Rest assured I make a very good salary.
4. My looks might not appeal to everyone, but, I do seem to be appealing to the majority of the population including the professional modeling agency who approached me in my younger years. Oh yes, they were from a very real and legitimate agency; and, yes they approached me, not the other way around.
5. I can converse on many topics from music to real estate to equine related topics, and, those are to just to mention a few.

And these are just a few of my qualities. I made a promise when I started this blog that I would at least write back once to anyone who wrote to me. I am continuing to keep that promise, however, if you don't hear from me again, you simply couldn't hold my interest.

The invitation to the Nutcracker with me was meant tongue-in-check. In other words, it wasn't meant to be taken seriously. However, apparently more than one of you did take it seriously, and, if someone out there truly thinks he might be a match for me then by all means please email me at SWF42email@gmail.com

Another weekend, another date - he had a cold, it wasn't great

Nothing overly exciting to report - Atlantic City didn't happen and instead, I went on a date with a new guy this past weekend, but, it wasn't the best it could have been the poor guy was coming down with a cold. I checked in on him today and, he is absolutely horrible. I'm just hoping I don't get it. I don't know if it is my imagination or not but, it seems like there are lots of summer colds going around this year - more than normal.

As for our date, he planned a really nice one. We started with dinner at the RedEye Grill. In a word, YUM! I had the Crispy Shrimp Maki Roll - excellent and my date had the Cuban Skirt Steak. Dessert is a must at this establishment but, we were just too full to indulge.

After dinner, we proceed to see "Hair" - it wasn't at all stale or dated as someone had told me and it was absolutely spectacular. As when this show first opened, it should be noted this show is not for young children - there is nudity.

After the show we had a horse and carriage ride home. Very romantic but, I could tell my date was miserable the entire time. I kept asking if he wanted to leave but, he insisted that we stay.

While the date went well, it would have been perfect if he didn't have a sore throat and runny nose. I agreed to see again after he is better. I'm not sure if this will develop into anything more than a few dates but, you never know...

A Full Social Calendar Gets Fuller

As we continue through this summer (and lets face it for those of us in the Northeast, it hasn't been much of a summer), it's hard to believe we're going into August. This year has zipped by with incredible speed and, as the year progresses, as per usual, my social calender continues to get fuller and fuller. It didn't help when I read this article this morning: http://www.examiner.com/x-18067-NY-Budget-Hotel-Travel-Examiner~y2009m7d30-Planning-your-2009-Holiday-Trip-to-New-York-City--Ideas-and-Suggestions-for-Sightseeing-and-Hotels which is all about the holidays in NYC and in turn reminded me of all my upcoming events.

Soon I will be doing my yearly mad dash to go shopping for outfits for various holiday occasions, and, accepting invitations to parties and other events that I have not already RSVPed. Slowly but, surely the stores are beginning to get their Fall clothing lines in and, coats are beginning to replace swimsuits in the seasonal departments. I have noticed puffed sleeves seem to be making a come back. A good balance for those of us not build like boys who have curves but, are by no stretch of the imagination overweight or fat. And, no that isn't a dig at anyone overweight, I've been battling the bugle all my life and, it's a daily struggle to maintain my size 8 to size 10 dress size. Believe me, I've ballooned as high as a size 22 and have never been smaller than a 6. However, I digress to my point of why certain mainstream designers refuse to cut their outfits for women who are as flat as ironing boards without a butt or bust to speak of... In a society where the average woman is a size 14, it makes absolutely no sense. I'm sure many of you feel my frustrations...

Well, Im off to the NJ shore for the weekend, Atlantic City to be specific. So until next week, stay cool!

Planning ahead - November Birthday with Mr Big

While my birthday isn't until November, my special friend (my version of Carrie's Mr. Big from Sex and the City) has already informed me that theater tickets are in hand, a special hotel has been reserved, dinner reservations are in place, and, I'm getting a rare treat. He is taking the following day off from work, from his kids (who are hardly children at this point, his eldest is in college), and, I'm getting the best gift from him possible. Quality time.

If you are new to my blog - yes, I have my own real life Mr. Big (on again, off again) relationship and we've been in "friendship mode" for the past two years. And, even though this birthday will not be a romantic one, there is no one I'd rather spend my birthday with than my own Mr. Big. He has been one of the two constants in my life that I can count upon. And, if I am once again involved with someone else by the time my birthday rolls around - he'll just have to deal with it.

I'm certain I will not end up with Mr. Big (as Carrie did in the Sex and the City movie), but, I am certain we will be important parts of each others lives until the day we die.

Perhaps I'm more secure in myself than other women, but, I could never get bent out of shape about platonic male/female relationships. If a man has a woman friend before I enter the picture, why would I view her as competition? After all, if he wanted her, they'd already be dating...

Likewise, I don't like men who get bent out of shape over my platonic male friends for the very same reason. If we were going to date, it would have happened.

And, no I am not the trusting fool. I've been around men who actually had groupies throwing themselves at them. And, while temptation was always in their path, the guys with the groupies always went home to their steady better halves. And, yes, I know this as fact and not speculation on my part. The point being is if the relationship is solid then friends of the opposite sex should not be viewed as a threat.

So, therefore, let it be known my birthday weekend is being spent with my own Mr. Big. I will be at the Waldorf Astoria and have the pleasure of enjoying Billy Elliott. Dinner is yet to be announced but, I wouldn't be surprised if it was 21 or some other similar restaurant. Then on Sunday, I am being treated to brunch at Peacock Alley.

If you are unfamiliar with Sunday brunch at Peacock Alley, it is something everyone should experience at least once in their lifetime. You will no doubt gag at the $95 per person plus tax and tip pricing, but, then again, the buffet is simply incredible.

Oh yes, I know, there are those of you are skeptical and cynical (and very obliviously jealous) about the truthfulness of my blog, however, it is all very real. So to those of you who fall into this category, say what you want but, one special weekend in November as I am enjoying one of the most renowned hotels in the world, having dinner at one of the best restaurant in NYC, and, going to Tony Award winning Broadway show.

What will you be doing in Podunk, USA? Nothing? That's what I thought.

Yes, this blog is real and this is really my life. If you care to expand your horizons and elevate yourself, it could be your life too - you jealous, small minded, twit!

So I Have Pneumonia, I'm Using My Time To Plan Vacation 2010

Well, I did to myself good this time - I went to my doctor after work. In a near panic he sent me for x-rays, I have pneumonia. Gee, and, I just didn't think things could get any better, now I get to stay home (I fought tooth and nail not to be admitted to a hospital) for the next week to two weeks to try to get healthy again.

The jerk had the nerve to send me flowers today. I refused them. I wonder if he realizes that I REALLY don't want anything more to do with him?!

So, what am I doing to entertain myself? Planning my next vacation of course! After thinking long and hard, I decided that next 4th of July I will be on a cruise. But, where? So many choices! Alaska has long been on my "bucket list" - I blame "The Love Boat", ever since I saw that episode of The Love Boat where they went to Alaska I wanted to go too. Then again, there are some really great cruises right out of the greater NYC area. Princess has a good one leaving on July 2, 2010 for 9 nights to Bermuda and the Caribbean. Then again, perhaps I will take my two weeks and take a cruise in Europe.

I have to tell you that it is my deepest hope that I am going with someone special and not just another vacation with my friends or family. Then again, a scenario like "Sleepless in Seattle" could be romantic... Think about it, meet on line (well ok she snail mailed him in the movie) but still the same concept, and, then picking a spot on the ship to finally rendezvous.

Yes guys, we girls, even at my age long for this type of romance. We also realize that most of you don't have a clue how to be romantic and that is why we get all bent out of shape when you just bring us flowers or send us a card for no reason. (I know girls, like that happens without some type of fight between you, right?) But, just imagine, out there, in cyber-space, perhaps there is that one guy who gets it.

The guy who is fit but doesn't live at the gym, who is good looking but isn't all about outward appearance, who has class, manners, oh hell - the whole package - afterall, I am daydreaming here. So why not go for everything? Yes, I want the impossible - are you out there??

I have a year to find out...

Carrie Bradshaw Want-To-Be types in NYC

Sooner or later, you'll figure out I'm from NYC, and, ever since Sex and the City came on the air and then went to the big screen, I've been entertained by thousands of Carrie Bradshaw Want-To-Be types. They are pretty easy to spot because 9 times out of 10 they are tourists. You'll first notice them because they're wearing high heals that obliviously hurt and it affects the way they walk. Then you'll notice that they are wearing very trendy clothes that usually do not flatter their specific body types.

I sit back and watch these women, and, often wonder what they are thinking - are their own lives so empty that they need to try to replicate what they see in a television program? Or is it a half-witted attempt to try to find and attract their own version of "Mr Big"? Regardless, I find it amusing.

The positive affect Sex and the City has brought along with it is that women, at least in New York City, are once again dressing like women. Dresses and skirts are a welcome change to the other parts of the country where jeans, flip flops and an ill-fitting shirt are the standards. Believe me, I am not shallow, not in the least but, it boggles my mind why some women won't take the time to make themselves more presentable.

I don't want to hear the excuse that someone is raising children by herself. I can tell you of no less than 10 women I know personally who are single Moms (some with upwards of 4 children) who manage to put themselves together every single day and still find time to go to work, cook, clean, help with homework and go to children's activities. And, no, they do not have nannies, housekeepers or help from their own parents. It can be done.

I don't wish to sound harsh or be overly judgmental since I am single with no kids, and, therefore, have no real life experience in this area but, I still can't figure out why some women just give up on themselves. Every woman out there has worth, and, we should show the world we are here and we care about ourselves and the world around us!

Getting back to the Carrie Bradshaw Want-To-Be types, while I applaud the efforts to try, it's my opinion that you should develop your own style. Let your own personality come through via your clothing, shoes and accessories. Even though I'm still single, I date and I date often, and, I have my own style. I do not copy things I see from a television program, and, yes, believe it or not, I do have my own "Mr Big" type relationship with a special friend that has been going on for nearly 10 years now. I know we will never marry as Carrie did in the Sex and the City movie, but, the point I want to drive home is that I doubt my personal Mr Big ever would have given me a second look if I look like everyone else on the street. He has told me many, many times that one of my most attractive qualities is my uniqueness.

So put away the shoes that hurt your feet. All they do is make you walk funny! And, most import of all - be your own person! I certainly am!