Another holiday season

Yes I know I haven't blogged all that much this year. 2010 hasn't been kind to me on many levels, and, I'll be glad to see it go. I hope 2011 holds much better times for me in all areas of my life. Maybe I should just go back to my own version of Mr Big, and, take it from there.

It's funny, I watched "Sex and the City" last night - the movie (the first one), and, my own Mr. Big and I are very much like Carrie and Big... Even the on again, off again thing for the past ten years. Alas, it is me who has the commitment issues. (And, I'm not thrilled that he has baggage... Never have been thrilled with that part since I'm always being put in last place. And, I do mean always.) And, this has made me extremely gun shy about dating any guy who has kids at at this point - even if the "kids" are now college age.

I'd love to find a guy who is 45 - 50 (since I'm now actually 44, I just kept the title of SWF42 because that is when I started writing this saga)... Anyhow, I'd like to find a guy who is 45 to 50 who doesn't have any kids - and I know you're out there - who loves to travel and likes the finer things in life and can afford to do them with me.

Somehow, I do believe my Mr. Big is planning on making yet another come-back into my life. Once again, the flowers, the dinner invitations, and, everything that he can do to romance me have once again started, but, I'm older and wiser - and I'm not going to fall for it so readily this time. I have to see that I get some type of priority once in a while and for once let work, his kids, his mother and his ex-wife take a back seat to me. If he would do that just once... Then and only then might I start taking him seriously again.

In the meantime, any other takers out there? Email me... I'll even give you a hint, somewhere on this website you'll find my email....

Over size 14? Wait a minute - I'll give you the tablecloth from my dining room table - chances are it will fit better than what's out there to buy!

Today I had one of the most disheartening experiences of my life. I took a friend shopping for a rather special event and it ended up with her in near hysterical tears. No it was nothing I said or did. No the saleswoman wasn't rude. No there were no ill words between her and husband or her and her children. The reason you ask? The clothes themselves.

My friend is a beautiful woman who just happens to be overweight. No I don't mean overweight by fashion world status - anyone above a size 4 is considered to be an elephant by the fashion world scale. But, truly over weight - a size 24 - for any man reading this - this roughly translates into XXL in your world.

I know some designers read this blog and so I will put the challenge directly to you...
Any designer, even the bad ones, can make a size 2 and 5'10 woman look great. As often quoted saying among the fashion industry "models are nothing more than mere hangers" - and to a very large part this true. My challenge is for designers to make clothing that flatters real women - ones who aren't size 2 or even size 16 and ones without perfect legs up to their necks and standing 5'9.

I can't remember who it was off hand but the best fashion designer cop-out of why that particular designer didn't make clothing over size 12 or 14 was because she (I'm 99% sure it was a she) said being "larger was unhealthy and she didn't want to be part of it."

I say that is pure bull!!

Any designer - who actually knows how to design - should be able to make flattering clothes for ANY sized woman. And, not just these God awful frumpy clothes that even though are brand new in stores (such as Saks Fifth Avenue and Bergdorf Goodman) with tags - look like something that was grabbed out of Grandma's closet without regard to garments being stylish, fashionable and God-forbid - flattering for a fuller figured woman.

And so with that I must give a standing ovation to Marc Jacobs - the first designer to realize there is an entirely overlooked market of women who are size 14 and over - who are fashion conscious and have the money to make purchases for designer items - if they could just be found! Unfortunately, these plans are still "in the works" and we might not have these items available until 2011, but, at least someone is waking up!

Now how about the rest of you following or should we just look forward to more Moos Moos and Toga-type dresses from you in 2011? If that's the case, I'll give my friend the tablecloth from my dining room table - chances are it will fit better and flatter more than the crap you are presently pushing down the plus sized woman's throat.